Confidence is the key! You can enhance your work-life balance, relationships, and general quality of life by being confident and believing in yourself. Although self-worth is undoubtedly an important component of confidence, it is not the same thing as confidence.
While self-confidence is about being driven and believing in yourself, self-worth is more closely tied to forgiving and embracing oneself. They are, therefore, essentially two sides of the same coin. But both are essential to having a positive connection with yourself and feeling good about yourself.
But we all have that inner voice that influences everything we say or do. If we let it, it might undermine our self-confidence, make us feel inferior, or both. In the end, we find ourselves failing to reach our goals.
If you want to think more positively and feel more confident, here are 10 negative phrases to stop using.
1. "I must complete it."
Instead, say: "I get to do that."
Your attitude will significantly alter if you substitute just one little word. You start to see things more as opportunities than as obligations as a result. So even though the work is unpleasant, it may help you learn new things and lead to opportunities.
2. "I cannot accomplish it"
Instead, say: "I'll do my best to accomplish that."
Keep going until you've even started! When you convince yourself that you can attempt, you not only give yourself an opportunity to succeed but also lower your bar for success by not having unreasonable expectations.
3. "I ought to do it."
Instead, say: "I'll take care of it." (Or, depending on your perspective, "won't do")
The word "should" is restrictive and puts pressure on us. Regain control by doing so. Get rid of the "should" and make your own decisions by deciding whether or not to do anything.
4. "Why am I going through this?"
Instead, ask: "What am I learning from this?"
You may transform something that is bothering or disturbing you into something that can lead you to more extraordinary things by asking yourself what you are learning. You're merely looking for the positive in what can be a difficult situation; you're not moaning.
5. "I should never have."
What to say instead: "I know [X] because I did it."
When you reframe this idea, you start to consider the positive outcomes that resulted from actions you first believed you shouldn't have taken. For example, you could have made a new friend or learned something admirable about yourself.
6. "I messed up."
What to say instead: "This effort failed."
Consequently, it's possible that an endeavor you undertook went differently than planned. You either still need to obtain the desired promotion or the new customer. However, you are being harsh to yourself if you tell yourself that you failed, and that's it. Keep in mind that there will be future chances.
7. If only I'd done [X]
How about saying nothing?
Everybody has had "if only" moments. For example, "If only I had brought up my suggestion at that meeting," or "If only I hadn't responded in that manner to that interview question." However, this is irrational reasoning. You're simply complaining and coming up with reasons—you're not learning from the past.
8. "This is just too difficult."
Instead, Say: "I don't comprehend this right now."
You are presenting a new difficulty as an unchanging reality when you tell yourself right away that you will never be able to understand it. This implies that you're gently telling yourself that you can't develop or evolve, which is absurd, of course. We are all still growing.
9. "It isn't fair,"
What to say instead: "I can handle it regardless!"
Yes, there are moments when life seems unfair, but that doesn't mean you have to keep telling yourself that mantra repeatedly until you give up. Instead, face that perceived injustice head-on and search for answers that will lead you to your desired destination.
10. "It won't ever change."
What to say instead: "I can adjust how I handle this."
Another instance of moving from the passive to the active is this. First, take control of the circumstance. Do you believe it is immutable? Then alter your perspective on it and your ideas on it!