Personal Wellbeing

Feeling Self-Conscious? Get Rid of These 10 Phrases

October 5, 2022
The Wellness Tribe

Confidence is the key! You can enhance your work-life balance, relationships, and general quality of life by being confident and believing in yourself. Although self-worth is undoubtedly an important component of confidence, it is not the same thing as confidence.

While self-confidence is about being driven and believing in yourself, self-worth is more closely tied to forgiving and embracing oneself. They are, therefore, essentially two sides of the same coin. But both are essential to having a positive connection with yourself and feeling good about yourself.

But we all have that inner voice that influences everything we say or do. If we let it, it might undermine our self-confidence, make us feel inferior, or both. In the end, we find ourselves failing to reach our goals.

If you want to think more positively and feel more confident, here are 10 negative phrases to stop using.

1. "I must complete it."

Instead, say: "I get to do that."

Your attitude will significantly alter if you substitute just one little word. You start to see things more as opportunities than as obligations as a result. So even though the work is unpleasant, it may help you learn new things and lead to opportunities.

2. "I cannot accomplish it"

Instead, say: "I'll do my best to accomplish that."

Keep going until you've even started! When you convince yourself that you can attempt, you not only give yourself an opportunity to succeed but also lower your bar for success by not having unreasonable expectations.

3. "I ought to do it."

Instead, say: "I'll take care of it." (Or, depending on your perspective, "won't do")

The word "should" is restrictive and puts pressure on us. Regain control by doing so. Get rid of the "should" and make your own decisions by deciding whether or not to do anything.

4. "Why am I going through this?"

Instead, ask: "What am I learning from this?"

You may transform something that is bothering or disturbing you into something that can lead you to more extraordinary things by asking yourself what you are learning. You're merely looking for the positive in what can be a difficult situation; you're not moaning.

5. "I should never have."

What to say instead: "I know [X] because I did it."

When you reframe this idea, you start to consider the positive outcomes that resulted from actions you first believed you shouldn't have taken. For example, you could have made a new friend or learned something admirable about yourself.

6. "I messed up."

What to say instead: "This effort failed."

Consequently, it's possible that an endeavor you undertook went differently than planned. You either still need to obtain the desired promotion or the new customer. However, you are being harsh to yourself if you tell yourself that you failed, and that's it. Keep in mind that there will be future chances.

7. If only I'd done [X]

How about saying nothing?

Everybody has had "if only" moments. For example, "If only I had brought up my suggestion at that meeting," or "If only I hadn't responded in that manner to that interview question." However, this is irrational reasoning. You're simply complaining and coming up with reasons—you're not learning from the past.

8. "This is just too difficult."

Instead, Say: "I don't comprehend this right now." 

You are presenting a new difficulty as an unchanging reality when you tell yourself right away that you will never be able to understand it. This implies that you're gently telling yourself that you can't develop or evolve, which is absurd, of course. We are all still growing.

9. "It isn't fair,"

What to say instead: "I can handle it regardless!"

Yes, there are moments when life seems unfair, but that doesn't mean you have to keep telling yourself that mantra repeatedly until you give up. Instead, face that perceived injustice head-on and search for answers that will lead you to your desired destination.

10. "It won't ever change."

What to say instead: "I can adjust how I handle this."

Another instance of moving from the passive to the active is this. First, take control of the circumstance. Do you believe it is immutable? Then alter your perspective on it and your ideas on it!

Worklife

Thriving After a Layoff: A Resilience Guide for the Team Still Standing

May 1, 2023
Mohit Sahni

Layoffs have become an unfortunate reality in today's ever-changing economic landscape. While those who lose their jobs bear the brunt of the impact, the ripple effect also reaches the remaining employees. In this article, we delve deeper into the challenges faced by surviving employees and discuss how corporate wellness programs, like those offered by Power8, can provide vital support during these difficult times.

Embracing Emotional Complexity

A layoff can trigger a wide range of emotions in the employees left behind. They may experience relief at retaining their jobs, guilt for their colleagues' misfortune, and anxiety about their own job security. It's crucial to acknowledge these emotions and not suppress them.

Instead of letting these feelings overwhelm you, seek mental health support when necessary. Many companies offer counseling services and mental health resources, which can provide a safe space to explore and process your emotions.

Creating a healthy work-life balance is also essential during this period. Establish boundaries between your personal and professional life to provide a safe haven for yourself when work feels unstable or overwhelming.

Strengthening Bonds with Affected Colleagues

Maintaining a strong bond with colleagues who have been laid off is vital, as it shows solidarity and strengthens your professional network. Reach out to them with genuine empathy, offering assistance wherever possible.

For instance, share job leads or connect them to potential job opportunities. Offer to provide feedback on their resumes, cover letters, or LinkedIn profiles, which can give them a competitive edge in their job search. You show your support and build lasting professional relationships by standing by your colleagues during these difficult times.

Reinventing Your Role

Layoffs can lead to a redistribution of job responsibilities among the remaining employees. This can be both an opportunity for growth and a potential source of stress and burnout. To manage this transition effectively, schedule a meeting with your manager to discuss your new job expectations and responsibilities.

Keep a record of your accomplishments, additional tasks, and increased workload, as this information will prove invaluable when negotiating promotions or raises in the future. Embrace growth opportunities that arise during this challenging period, as they can help you develop new skills and enhance your professional profile.

Rediscovering Your Professional Purpose

Use the period of change following a layoff as an opportunity to reassess your job satisfaction and fulfillment. Evaluate which tasks energize you and which ones drain you. Seek feedback from colleagues and managers to identify areas of improvement and growth.

Reflect on whether your current role and organization align with your values, passions, and goals. If the alignment no longer exists, consider exploring new opportunities within or outside the company that better match your interests and aspirations.

Envisioning Your Ideal Future

Having a clear vision of your desired skills and experiences will help you navigate your career path more effectively. Explore new opportunities within the company that align with your interests, or stay ahead of industry trends and innovations that could impact your role.

For instance, consider how technological advancements, such as artificial intelligence, might affect your industry and job. By proactively positioning yourself as a valuable asset, you increase your chances of long-term success.

Preparing for the Road Ahead

When discussing your long-term goals with your manager, be mindful of timing. It's best to wait until the situation feels more stable, typically three to six months after a layoff. Most managers appreciate employees who are proactive in adding value to the company, especially during challenging times.

If suitable opportunities are unavailable within your organization, consider seeking external openings that align with your future goals. Keep your resume, portfolio, and LinkedIn profile updated, and connect with hiring managers or apply to new positions that interest you. By preparing for the road ahead, you ensure you're ready to seize new opportunities.

Power8's Corporate Wellness Programs

In the aftermath of a layoff, employees may struggle with their mental and emotional well-being. This is where Power8's employee wellness programs can make a significant difference. These programs provide essential support to employees, helping them navigate the challenges they face while boosting their overall well-being.

Power8's employee wellness programs are designed to address employees' unique needs, especially during organizational change. They offer tools and resources that promote physical, mental, and emotional health. By focusing on holistic well-being, these programs foster a resilient workforce capable of thriving in the face of adversity.

Final Words

Layoffs are unfortunate in the modern workplace, but they don't have to dictate your professional future. By embracing emotional complexity, strengthening bonds with affected colleagues, reinventing your role, rediscovering your professional purpose, envisioning your ideal future, and preparing for the road ahead, you can not only survive but thrive after a layoff. 

Power8's corporate wellness programs offer the support and resources needed to navigate these turbulent times, ensuring that companies and employees emerge stronger and more resilient than ever.

Workplace

Navigating Tough Conversations without Torching Relationships

June 2, 2023
Nitesh Padghan

Understanding how to manage tricky conversations in a professional environment without harming your relationships is key to success. Whether you encounter prejudice in corporate communication, find yourself at odds with your CEO's stance on a matter you hold dear, or witness subtle biases in team meetings, voicing your concerns is vital. However, the skill lies in doing so effectively.

Global survey data of 2,600 Gen Z employees indicates that only 20% would work for a company that doesn't align with their values. It's also noted that at least 70% of Gen Z actively participate in social or political causes. Moreover, evidence suggests those who can relate their social purpose to their jobs are more engaged and satisfied in their roles.

To explore how one can express their views and navigate challenging conversations without damaging professional relationships, we consulted a few of our experts. Here are their insights.

Embrace others as allies, not enemies.

When addressing an issue, like a subtle bias, approach the individual involved as an ally, not an adversary. Social advocacy is most effective when you initiate conversations by "inviting people in" instead of "calling them out" or outright criticism.

"To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others." - Tony Robbins

Aim for a dialogue, striving to comprehend the other party's perspective. Focus on assisting them in understanding their error rather than chastising them for it. Such conversations are not just ideologically sound but also pragmatic and practical. By inviting a person to discuss an issue rather than attempting to win a battle, they're more likely to listen and positively move forward from the conversation.

Understanding intent is vital; listen to their viewpoint.

Once on equal terms, actively listen to and consider the other person's perspective. Research indicates that we tend to overestimate how radical our adversaries' views are.

Clarify intentions by actively listening and displaying curiosity. Ask specific questions to comprehend their viewpoint better. After listening attentively, summarize what you've heard to avoid misunderstandings and confirm the facts. This will help you understand where you differ in your beliefs, their views' origins, and whether they're open to new information or prone to change.

Our ability to hear others increases when we listen and make them feel heard. As a basic human behavior, reciprocity - doing unto others as they do unto me - is a norm we should follow. Recognizing this reciprocity can make conveying your stance easier.

The human element is paramount.

It's crucial to remember you're interacting with a fellow human, a person with feelings, experiences, aspirations, and a shared desire to be understood and respected. Labeling others as narcissists, gaslighters, or toxic can lead to their dehumanization, especially when their views diverge from ours.

By listening to others and understanding their perspective, we respect their capacity for growth and change. Minson underscores that when we acknowledge the potential for change in those we disagree with, our engagement with them becomes more productive. Avoid the binary view of people as either "good" or "bad." Extending grace and empathy can go a long way.

Exclusion, on the other hand, can lead to the entrenchment of extreme views. If an individual feels marginalized, they might seek out like-minded individuals, thereby creating echo-chambers and perpetuating polarization. Treating people as humans, with their unique flaws and fundamental needs, is essential to the changes we hope to achieve.

Humor can be a potent tool.

Contrary to what one might expect, a sense of humor can play a critical role in social advocacy. Kashdan cites Loretta Rose's experience as an example of grace. In 2017, as a professor, she mistakenly used the wrong pronoun for a student. Instead of reacting negatively, the student lightened the situation with humor, saying, "That's all right; I misgender myself sometimes."

Humor allows us to connect on a human level, disarm others, and mitigate embarrassment. It invites dialogue and doesn't presuppose negative intentions. However, this approach depends on the situation and your comfort level with the individuals involved.

Don't hesitate to seek help.

Confronting broad organizational issues or engaging in difficult conversations with senior leadership can seem daunting. However, finding allies can prove invaluable in these circumstances. Look for individuals in leadership roles who share your concerns. Consult with them and propose how specific actions could benefit the company, its leaders, and its employees.

For instance, if your organization misses out on focusing on ESG, you could make a case for its potential benefits. Be proactive in suggesting how you can move forward with this issue.

Advocating for a more empathetic, respectful world is no easy task, and you can't control how others react. But the most important thing is to make a sincere effort, even if your attempts to engage others aren't always successful. Patience is the key to changing minds and behaviors. Give it time.

Closing Thoughts

As we strive to foster a world of mutual respect and care, it's crucial to remember that the reactions of others aren't within our control. What truly matters is the sincerity and wholeheartedness of our attempts. Sometimes, change might be slow, but patience is key. Each conversation, each voice raised for what is right, takes us one step closer to a more empathetic, understanding workplace.

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